Oh well! It is really ok to not have a bazillion resolutions. I think it's better to set goals and stop along the way during the year and assess if it's still a good goal and what still needs to be done to meet it. People that write down their goals are more likely to accomplish them. What's the difference between a resolution and a goal? I see a resolution of a thing you want to change: lose weight, eat better, go to the gym every day, better financial health, buy a house, etc. I see a goal as a plan for actually accomplishing the resolution. I would rather have a map for driving 1200 miles than to just say, "I'm going to Seattle, WA." I will be much better prepared to actually arrive at my destination than to go out, get lost, forget, and quit.
My favorite thing about setting a goal is that it can be adjusted. Maybe in July you see that the market is not the best and you get pregnant. Therefore, buying a house is not a good choice for this year because you can't spare the extra money. It's ok. Just adjust accordingly. You are still on target to meet your goal. Driving 800 miles and waiting when you run into a blizzard with only 400 miles left to go is way better then going 80 miles and saying that it's impossible and going back to square one. Especially, since it is still a dream you have for your family.
I don't mean a goal is a loophole out of accomplishing something. It's giving yourself permission to take a step off the path for whatever comes your way and then getting back on your journey. My goal is to exercise in some form every day, but love myself just as much on the days I can't/don't. I can take care of my sick babies that are up several times a night. I know I can't take them to the gym and when they finally rest, I can rest, too, because I am plum tuckered. I am not going to beat myself up that I should be doing an exercise video or on the elliptical when I might actually fall asleep and hurt myself anyway. Progress is any step forward. It may be baby steps, but as long as we are moving, there will be change and progress. I may not be able to exercise because I am so exhausted, but my adjustment can be to make better eating choices and therefore, I am still heading towards my goal.
I wish everyone the best in the new year of 2014.
| An Old Irish Blessing |
May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind always be at your back. May the sun shine warm upon your face, and rains fall soft upon your fields. And until we meet again, May God hold you in the palm of His hand. |
I believe you can accomplish anything you set out to accomplish. But you must believe in yourself first. No one can make you do what you choose and you will make the journey when you are truly ready for a change and progress in your life.
Where will your "map" take you this year?
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